Let’s talk about sex. It’s something we’re all fascinated by, even if we’re too shy to admit it.
And you know what? There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that! Sex can be a great way to explore your inner desires and those of your partner.
Yet not all of us are having the hot, steamy sex that we deserve. In fact, some couples aren’t even having sex at all.
Whether it’s caused by an incompatible libido, a bad relationship, or even mental health issues like depression or anxiety, sex isn’t always the magical experience we’re hoping for.
But that doesn’t mean you have to settle for a subpar sex life! Here are seven great ways to improve sex that are sure to please both you and your partner.
1. Reconnect With Your Partner
As the saying goes, it takes two to tango. The stronger your connection with your partner, the better your sex is going to be.
No two people are exactly the same, so don’t expect that you’re automatically on the same page. If you and your partner are having some trouble connecting in the bedroom, take some time to just talk.
Reconnecting with your partner establishes intimacy and can ease any tension between you two.
A quick note, leave electronics out of it. Tablets, phones, and the like are great, but they’re also distractions.
Take an hour or so out of each day to just be with each other and enjoy one another’s company. You’ll be amazed at how quickly your sex life improves.
2. Use Toys
Ah, sex toys. One of the biggest taboos of all!
Which is really silly when you realize that at least half of all couples have used or currently use sex toys in the bedroom.
Many people incorrectly assume that bringing toys into the bedroom means that they’re not getting the job done. In truth, it rarely has anything to do with a partner’s performance.
Both men and women can benefit from using toys in the bedroom, and you should be able to find something for everyone’s needs.
Today’s sex toys include way more than your standard vibrators. From cock rings to vibrating panties to smartphone-enabled vibrators and USB-powered male masturbators, everyone can find something they like.
3. Communicate Your Needs
Sex, like any other facet of a relationship, is dependent on how well you and your partner communicate. If you’re not being honest with your partner about your needs — and vice versa — it’s going to be difficult to enhance your sex life.
No one is a mind reader, so it’s time to start opening up. Have an open and honest discussion with your partner and what you both want.
It may be embarrassing at first, but you can’t improve your situation in the bedroom without sacrificing a little pride.
4. Stop Being Ashamed Of Your Kinks
If you take away one thing from this article, it should be this: Stop being ashamed of your sexuality. That begins with accepting your kinks and turn-ons.
Unless you’re into something illegal or directly harmful to others (in a non-consensual manner) there’s absolutely nothing wrong with your kink, no matter how awkward or shameful you may find it.
Don’t believe us? Head over to Fetlife and see just how many people share your kink. People may not always talk about it, but everyone is pretty darn kinky in their own way.
So embrace your kink and discover how much fun sex can be when you stop feeling ashamed and embrace who you are.
5. Use Lube… and Lots Of It
Like sex toys, it seems that a lot of people feel like they’ve failed somehow if they require the use of lubricant. In truth, the female body can only produce so much natural lubricant and there are even some women who struggle to produce vaginal lubricant altogether.
Whatever your situation, adding a dollop of lube can take your sex life from just okay to hot as fire.
This goes for masturbation, too.
While using improvised lubes such as hand creams or lotions may be common, it isn’t the best choice, as it affects the vagina’s natural pH balance and can irritate penile skin.
6. Experiment With New Positions
Adding some new positions to your bedroom repertoire can add some much-needed variety to your sex life.
There’s nothing wrong with the standard positions — they’re standards for a reason. But after a while, having sex in the same positions can become bland.
It’s time to spice things up and get creative! Find some hot new positions that you and your partner can both enjoy.
How you switch things up is up to you and your partner, but we recommend focusing on positions that incorporate a solid angle of penetration (the penis, toy, finger, etc. should hit the G-spot) and clitoral stimulation.
7. Make An Effort To Touch
We all want to feel wanted. And for many of us, that sense of belonging is established by physical contact.
We’re not necessarily talking about strictly sexual touch, either. Something as simple as holding a partner’s hand, kissing their neck softly, or caressing their body with your hand can be a great way to get things going.
Physical contact releases endorphins that make you feel better and encourage a stronger bond with your partner.
So make a stronger effort to touch your partner, even if it’s something as small as a gentle kiss or a nuzzle. You’d be amazed at how impactful these seemingly small gestures can be.
Finding New Ways To Improve Sex Should Be Fun
At the end of the day, life is too short for bad, boring sex. So what do you think? Which of these ways to improve sex are you most looking forward to trying?
Once you’re exhausted in the bedroom, be sure to check out the rest of our relationship posts for more great advice to keep your relationship strong and healthy!